Monday, November 24, 2008

Swinging from the Chandelier

Anna is starting to talk more and more. One of her first sentences was "I need help". Now she says it all the time. It is basically a catch-all phrase for anything she wants you to do for her.

Today I heard Anna in the kitchen emphatically saying "I need help!" I went in to find her like this:


Initially I thought she wanted help getting down. But NO! She wanted help reaching the light fixture! Obviously, I'm not going to let her swing from the chandelier. But, being the good parent that I am, I went for the camera first.


Then I made her get down!

Monday, November 17, 2008

Camping


This last weekend we went camping. It was a monumental event. The last time I went camping was about 15 years ago. Long story short, it involved a torrent of water ripping through our tent (okay, I exaggerate, but only slightly) and it ended with Dalen and I sleeping on a picnic table under a pavilion in a public park. After that experience, I believe I said something very similar to "I will never, EVER, as long as I live, go camping again!" But I guess after 15 years, the awfulness of it has faded enough that I was willing to eat crow and give it another try. And what do you know, it was actually FUN! The kids thought it was great! I told Dalen that I might even be willing to consider going again sometime.

This trip was an Elder's Quorum activity for our ward, so that definitely contributed to making it fun ... and easy. The company was good, we didn't have to worry about food or stuff for a fire, there was help when we arrived with putting up the tent, and there were plenty of people to help keep an eye on the kids. How great is that?!

Sleeping in the tent was fun, although a cold front came in during the night and it got a little chilly. Seth and Aleah enjoyed it anyway. They were exhausted after running around all night with their friends and I think they were asleep as soon as their heads hit the pillows.


Josh was excited and kept yelling "My sleeping bag is swallowing me up!", among other things.

Anna ran around and around on the air mattresses. She had a hard time settling down. But she eventually fell asleep (thank heavens).

We went to Pedernales Falls State Park. It was beautiful! I had never been there before, but Dalen had been there with Seth and Aleah for Father/Son and Daddy/Daughter outings. It is not very far from where we live, so we'll definitely be going there again.

Seth is the one on the right walking across the rocks.

Here is Aleah - the one in the pink jacket.

Josh with his "best friend", Millie.

Not to be confused with his "favorite friend", Evie.
(He is quite the ladies' man, I suppose.)

Anna hiking with her dad.

Seth with one of his favorite friends ever, Wynton.

Seth and Aleah roasting marshmellows and making smores.

Anna waking up, after not much sleep, to a cold morning. She wasn't particularly happy. But she started to warm up as the temperature warmed up.

Here is at least part of the family. We couldn't even begin to keep up with Seth and Aleah, so they didn't get in the picture.

Dalen said the water was lower than he had ever seen it. But this way we were able to walk across the rocks to the other side of the river.

There were giant holes in the rocks everywhere.
(Wynton, Aleah & Seth)

Josh, Anna & Dalen.

So, here are some things I have learned from camping:

1. Dirt won't kill you! It was hard for me to believe, but I seem to have survived.

2. If you want camping to be enjoyable, you need "stuff". My family actually did a lot of camping when I was growing up and I always thought it was fun. But I think that was because my dad had invested in "stuff" from REI, not to mention trailers and motor homes. :) It might also have been because I was the kid and I didn't really do any of the work. But even when we went back packing, I don't remember feeling deprived. We were always warm and dry and well fed.

3. If you are going to go camping and you don't really know what you are doing and you don't have "stuff", it is a good idea to go with others. There is strength in numbers.

4. I need to be more grateful. I should never take for granted things like indoor plumping and vacuum cleaners and washing machines. I also need to be more grateful for the things people do for me. There was a lot of effort put into this camping trip by a lot of people and I got all the benefits of it. Also, 15 years ago on my last camping trip, I should have been more grateful for all of the arrangements that were made for that. It wasn't Mark's fault that it rained like crazy that night. And I am grateful for all those family camping trips that my parents arranged for us when we were kids. So, here is a big THANK YOU!!! And I'll try to do it in person too.

5. We live in a beautiful world. Sometimes it is nice to get away and enjoy God's creations.

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Soccer

So, what's the difference between a soccer mom and a pit bull? Well, in my case, unless that pit bull's lips are looking luscious and lovely, I'd have to say it is NOT lipstick. On those Saturday mornings when we are headed out to the soccer fields, having freshly brushed teeth is about as glamorous as I am going to get. So hum...., what could the difference be??

Anyway...

I suppose that I fall into the general category of "soccer mom" these days. Although I'd like you to note that I DO NOT drive a minivan. (No offense to any of you minivan drivers.) We also live where it is nice and warm a good long part of the year, which means that the enthusiastic soccer clubs here in Austin have two soccer seasons - one in the spring and one in the fall. That roughly translates into six months of soccer per year for us. While I am always excited when soccer starts up again each season, I am equally excited when the season is finally over - which is where we are right now. I sometimes think that one soccer season might be enough for me. It seems that we get nothing done when we are in the throes of soccer. I'm sure our neighbors wonder why we can't seem to get around to mowing our lawn. They have kids involved in soccer and various other sports, but they do their yard work. Of course they usually do their's on Sunday, which isn't going to happen for us. But, oh well. Even though our yard sometimes leaves something to be desired, we are much more happy spending our time watching Seth and Aleah play soccer. The grass will always grow back, but you are only young once.

I was not very good about remembering the camera, so I had to try to take an entire season's worth of pictures during Seth and Aleah's very last games.

Seth is in the black jersey. You know, the good looking one. ;) Seth did a great job this season and had a great time!






Aleah is also in the black jersey. She may be small, but she is one tough cookie. So watch out! She was on a new team this year and she was very, very happy. Aleah had a great season!






Seth and Aleah, we are very proud of both of you!

Friday, November 7, 2008

Count Your Many Blessings

Today I attended the funeral services for a gal who was in my book club. It was a very nice service. She had died after a seven year battle with cancer. She was 38 years old and left behind a husband and three daughters ages nine, seven and three. It made me very sad. Her children are roughly the same ages as mine. My heart went out to her husband and sweet children. She was a very remarkable person and she will be greatly missed.

As I sat and listened to the thoughtful comments made during the service, I was touched by how often the speakers referenced her optimism and how blessed she felt her life was. She never questioned her faith or seemed to feel bitter about her situation. I had always known her to be remarkably positive and energetic about her life. It made me wonder how I would react if I were faced with similar circumstances. Her positive outlook and her faith are certainly worthy of emulation.

I also thought about all of the blessings that God has given me in my life. I am truly blessed! I have a wonderful family. I love my husband. He is such a good person. He is kind to me and our children. He is smart and hard working and devoted and good natured and he has a good sense of humor (which is helpful since he lives with and has to put up with me). I truly enjoy his company and spending my life with him. I get to be the mom to four amazing little people who are talented and sweet and good. How did I get so lucky? I love them so much! I have a supportive and loving extended family who would do just about anything for me and my family. And I have wonderful, caring friends who enrich my life in so many ways. I have SO many opportunities and luxuries and blessings! I hope that I never, ever forget it! No matter what.

One of my greatest blessings is that these
wonderful people call me "mom".
Seth, Aleah, Josh & Anna - Summer 2008

Decision 2008 – The Novel


The election of 2008 has come and gone. It was indeed historic. But it was also very discouraging. In my opinion, the choices for president were “bad” (McCain) and “worse than bad” (Obama). But I voted anyway. The sad part was that my vote was merely an attempt to keep “worse than bad” out of office. But, he was elected anyway.

The only bright spot in the election process was that measures passed in California, Florida, and Arizona which define marriage as being between one man and one woman and essentially placed a ban on same-sex marriages in those states.

WARNING: From here on, I am going to rant about politics! So if you’d rather not read a lot of super conservative views, I suggest that you stop reading NOW. Besides, it is REALLY long!

My vote for president had nothing to do with whether or not I liked the candidates. Neither did it have anything to do with race, age, gender, attractiveness, oratory skills or dancing ability. It all boiled down to policy. So I voted for the candidate whose policies I agreed with the most. But it was slim pickin’s! As far as social issues (traditional family values, right to life, etc.) and foreign policy issues, my beliefs are mostly in alignment with McCain. But when it comes to economic issues, I think our country is headed in the wrong direction! Obama said “McCain calls it (Obama’s policies) socialism, I call it opportunity.” Frankly I would call it socialism too. But McCain’s policies are also headed toward socialism, just at a slightly slower pace.

I recently heard a political commentator say that 40 years ago government was seen as the problem, now it is seen as the solution. In my opinion, the fact that government has become “the solution” in so many people’s minds IS the problem. Politicians are promising everything under the sun because that seems to be what the people want and they think it will get them elected. But while people may want government handouts and programs and benefits that take care of them or others, that is not necessarily what is best for them or for the county. Such handouts rarely have the desired effect. People start to rely on the government to take care of them. And those who end up paying the taxes that fund such benefits rarely feel charitable or pleased that they had the opportunity to “help” others when their money is involuntarily taken from them. Most government programs end up being poorly run and costing far more than they should. Government benefits and assistance programs do not encourage self reliance or thrift or accountability or hard work. They encourage laziness and an attitude of entitlement.

In his inaugural address in 1961, John F. Kennedy spoke of pledging “our best efforts to help [people] help themselves”. He made his famous statement: “Ask not what your country can do for you—ask what you can do for your country.” I don’t know enough about JFK to know if he really believed in these words or if they were just rhetoric, but I am in agreement with the sentiment. I think that people today need to stop asking what the government can do for them. They need to stop looking for handouts and free rides. And those running for public office need to stop promising that the government will provide solutions to every problem.

After the Republican National Convention, I almost thought I could get behind John McCain and be excited about supporting him in his run for the presidency. These are the statements he made that I found encouraging and they are ideals I can believe in:

“In the end, it matters less that you can fight. What you fight for is the real test... We believe in low taxes; spending discipline, and open markets. We believe in rewarding hard work and risk takers and letting people keep the fruits of their labor. We believe in a strong defense, work, faith, service, a culture of life, personal responsibility, the rule of law, and judges who dispense justice impartially and don't legislate from the bench. We believe in the values of families, neighborhoods and communities. We believe in a government that unleashes the creativity and initiative of Americans. Government that doesn't make your choices for you, but works to make sure you have more choices to make for yourself… If you find faults with our country, make it a better one. If you're disappointed with the mistakes of government, join its ranks and work to correct them. Enlist in our Armed Forces. Become a teacher. Enter the ministry. Run for public office. Feed a hungry child. Teach an illiterate adult to read. Comfort the afflicted. Defend the rights of the oppressed. Our country will be the better, and you will be the happier. Because nothing brings greater happiness in life than to serve a cause greater than yourself …With hard work, strong faith and a little courage, great things are always within our reach. Fight with me. Fight with me. Fight for what's right for our country. Fight for the ideals and character of a free people. Fight for our children's future. Fight for justice and opportunity for all. Stand up to defend our country from its enemies. Stand up for each other; for beautiful, blessed, bountiful America. Stand up, stand up, stand up and fight. Nothing is inevitable here. We're Americans, and we never give up. We never quit. We never hide from history. We make history.”

But then McCain went and blew it!

I was enormously disappointed when he supported the $700 billion economic bailout plan. How do you keep taxes low when you incur an expense like that? And is it really a good idea for the government to take over the financial institutions of this country? I’m not even sure that the bailout will do all that the politicians claim it will; and there are a lot of economists who say it won’t do what politicians say it will.

Then I lost all confidence in him when in the second debate McCain stated: "As president of the United States, I would order the secretary of the Treasury to immediately buy up the bad home-loan mortgages in America and renegotiate at the new value of those homes - at the diminished value of those homes - and let people be able to make those payments and stay in their homes.”

Really?! Should the government be in the business of renegotiating your mortgage for you when you bought a house you couldn’t afford? How exactly is the government going to pay for all those bailouts? Oh yah, taxes…

When the founding fathers set out to establish the Constitution and initiate the government for this country, they held a strong distrust of a centralized government and therefore tried to give the federal government very limited powers. There are good reasons why it is not a good idea for government to hold too much power. After all, governments are run by men (and women) and “We have learned by sad experience that it is the nature and disposition of almost all men, as soon as they get a little authority, as they suppose, they will immediately begin to exercise unrighteous dominion.” D&C 121:39

So how on earth did the government get to where it is now? Well, I think it really started with FDR and the "New Deal" and it's been going downhill ever since. I certainly wouldn’t call government today “limited”. The federal government currently provides over 1000 benefits and assistance programs. (Really! This is not an exaggeration. Look it up: www.govbenefits.gov.) These programs include social security, medicare, housing assistance, food and nutrition programs, education grants, disability assistance, child development programs, and career development, etc. I am sure that all of these programs are well intentioned. But is that really the role that we want government to have? Why should it be the government’s responsibility to make sure that nothing bad ever happens to you? The candidates from both political parties seem to promise everything. When bad things happen that aren’t your fault, the government will be there to fix it. For that matter, even if it was your fault, the government will fix that too! And how is the government paying for helping all the disadvantaged and less fortunate and anyone else who thinks they need assistance? By taxing the rich, of course!

I am hoping that you will not think I am completely cold hearted. I really am not without compassion and I do believe in being charitable and helping my fellow men. In fact, I believe we all have a moral obligation to help the poor and afflicted and less fortunate – those who are unable to help themselves. We are commanded by God to do this. I am just not in favor of the government compelling its citizens to be charitable. I am against the concepts of “economic justice” and “redistribution of wealth”. I think it becomes rather dangerous when the government can, at will, take the property or income of one citizen and reallocate that property to someone else. I think it is wrong to punish those citizens of this country who have, through their hard work and ingenuity, become "rich". Of course, if people became wealthy through illegal means, then they should have to answer to the law. But those who work hard and are successful are the most productive members of society. They provide jobs for other members of our society. So why should the government be able to take a portion of their property from them because others weren’t so fortunate. I think our founding fathers would be appalled.

As a matter of fact, did you know that the top 25% of wage earners pay approximately 85% of the federal income taxes collected? (To be in that top 25%, your adjusted gross income on your tax return would have to have been $65,000 or more according to 2006 statistics.) The bottom 50% of wage earners pay less than 5%. I am not anti-government, but I do think our government has gotten out of control. I also think that if they are going to tax people, they should at least make it fair. I think it would be a great idea to tax everyone at a certain percentage, or perhaps have a national sales tax instead of income tax. But tax structure is another topic that would take way too much time to go into right now. This puppy is already plenty long.

In 1936, the leaders of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints met and established its Welfare Plan. Its aims and goals seem to be everything that the government’s Welfare Program is not. “Our primary purpose was to set up, in so far as it might be possible, a system under which the curse of idleness would be done away with, the evils of a dole abolished, and independence, industry, thrift and self-respect be once more established amongst our people. The aim of the Church is to help the people to help themselves. Work is to be re-enthroned as the ruling principle of the lives of our Church membership.” (General Conference, Oct. 1936.)

The government could and should take a lesson from the Church’s Welfare program. Actually, the government should get out of the business of providing welfare and benefit programs all together. Rather churches and faith based groups and non-profit organizations should be in charge of charities and assistance programs. I believe that most people, particularly in a prosperous nation like ours, are willing and anxious to help others - especially if they believe that their contributions will actually improve the lives of others and will not be wasted or end up in the pockets of administrators.

I can think of many, many examples that I know of when people willingly gave of their resources and their time. When the attack on September 11 occurred, my husband went down to the blood bank to donate blood. The line was out the building and around the corner. People here in Austin, thousands of miles away, were trying to do something that they thought would be helpful. You may say that of course people are willing to help when there are huge disasters. But you see people coming to the aid of others all the time. TV stations organize coat drives and schools take up collections, involving both monetary and non-monetary contributions, to help children and families inside and outside of their communities. Various groups organize ways to send care packages to military troops overseas. And lots and lots and lots of people, both rich and poor, willingly give money to or establish charitable organizations, not because they have to, but because they want to! I see acts of kindness in my life all the time. When I broke my ankle a few years ago, I was overwhelmed by the help and assistance I received. Much of that assistance came from people I knew through my church. But I was amazed at how many people from my neighborhood and from the school my kids go to went out of their way to help me. People I barely knew, who knew my kids from school or had heard about my situation, brought meals to us and called offering assistance to take my kids to soccer practices or to bring them home from school or to help in any way they could. My next door neighbor brought my kids home from school for over a month and always fed them a snack at her house before sending them home. She called every time she went to the grocery store just to see if I needed her to pick anything up. These are the kinds of people who would and do give to organizations that are established to help the disadvantaged and unfortunate. When I was on my mission, there were times when, upon explaining the principle of fast offerings, people we were teaching would voluntarily fast and then give money to the church because they wanted to help. There are already many churches and organizations in this country established to help others. And I believe that if government was not involved in assistance programs, then these and other organizations would take on the responsibility and people would contribute money and time to those organizations. Granted, there probably would not be as many assistance programs as the government currently has. But I am not sure that that would be a bad thing.

Government programs are wasteful and full of bureaucracy. And, I think one could argue that government assistance programs have actually discouraged people from being more charitable because they assume that the government will take care of people. In addition, people believe that there are many individuals who take advantage of the government systems who do not really need assistance. But I think people have more faith in non-government charities and they believe that they are run better. And if it turns out that a charitable organization is poorly run, people will demand that it either change its practices or discontinue operation. When government programs are poorly run, what can be done about it? Well, I suppose you can write your congressman, but ...

Okay, I will stop ranting for now. Most of this is just a soap box dissertation anyway, because government is too deeply entrenched in social programs to really change any time in the near future. But change has to start somewhere and people have to speak up to make that change happen.

Finally, while I am discouraged about many aspects of our government, I must say that I still believe that the United States is the greatest country ever established. The standard of living that we enjoy is unprecedented in the history of the world. Also, how great is it that I can go into a public forum like this and say that I am annoyed with government policies and practices and that I really wish that the President Elect had not won the election? And I can say it all without any fear that some official from the government or the Obama campaign will come to my door and haul me away or try to shut me up. People reading this blog may wish that they could shut me up, but that is another matter all together!

THE END

Sunday, November 2, 2008

Trick or Treat

First of all, I must say something about where we live. We live on a cul-de-sac. And it is the greatest thing ever! We love our neighbors. We love that the kids can play in the street because usually the only cars that come into the cul-de-sac are those of people who live here. We love that we know our neighbors fairly well because we all stand out on the street and yak while the kids play around us. We love that our neighbors feel like they can call us when they need to borrow some wood glue for a school project they are still working on with their kid at 10 pm. And we can call them when we are an egg short in the middle of making cookies. We feel a great sense of community, and yes, we love it!

So what does this have to do with Halloween? Well, every year, our cul-de-sac starts celebrating Halloween the weekend before the holiday. We have an annual pumpkin carving party and pot-luck in the driveway of one of our neighbors. It is REALLY fun and the kids have a blast. So here are the pictures from this year's party.

Seth and one of his buddies from across the street.

Aleah working hard on her dragon design pumpkin.

Josh decided to get the hired help to work on his pumpkin.

And he was very pleased with the results.

Here are all the kids in the hood with their
finished (or mostly finished) products.

Seth and Aleah didn't quite finish their carvings,
so they worked on them for FHE the next day.

Anna pretty much missed out on the whole carving thing,
so we let her paint her mini pumpkin.

Unfortunately, due to user error, we had camera issues and we were not able to get pictures of the pumpkin masterpieces Seth and Aleah created in their original form. Luckily, we resolved those issues by Halloween. But unluckily, the pumpkins got mighty moldy – which happens when you live where it is still 80 degrees in October. But, we figured that moldy pumpkins were scary and therefore fit in with the Halloween theme. So we left them on the porch as decoration. (Yes, that black junk is mold.) Josh informed me every day that those pumpkins were starting to DECAY! "Decay" is Josh's new favorite topic which he learned about from "Sid, the Science Kid" on PBS. He is very interested in knowing what does and what does not decay. "Do cars decay?" "Do trees decay?" "Do teeth decay?"

Here are the kids on Halloween, ready to make the rounds. Seth is Zorro, Aleah is Morticia Addams, Josh is Buzz Lightyear, and Anna was a little "50's" girl. After getting everyone ready, we headed over to the church for a quick round of "Trunk or Treat".

Then we headed over to our friends, the Kings, for a yummy chili and soup dinner. There were lots of kids there ready to hit the pavement.

We were glad to go begging for candy with our friends, the Scotts. And believe me, we got enough candy to last a VERY long time. Seth and Aleah were especially happy to hang out with their friends Wynton and Brin.

Buzz enjoyed making the rounds. When Josh had his Buzz Lightyear costume on, he refered to himself as "Buzz" in the third person. "Buzz really likes candy." "Buzz's favorite food is cake." "Buzz's tummy is starting to hurt." Thankfully, Buzz's stomach felt much better after some milk and toast.

Anna didn't really know what to think of the whole thing. But she was happy to fill her bag with candy. I think she was mostly happy about the bag. Who wouldn't want a giant pumpkin purse?

Here is Dalen in his biker costume. I told him he needed a Harley Davidson T-shirt to complete the outfit. He told me he just needed the Harley. (Like the ponytail?)

And this is me.

I find Halloween to be fairly stressful. The last few years it has included an awful lot of rushing. And by 8:00, I have usually had enough and I am ready to call it quits. I told the family that this year I would try not to yell at them to STOP tricking or treating and JUST GO HOME. But Seth said that was part of what makes Halloween scary. I love that kid! And since I didn't want to disappoint him, around 8:30 or so I did finally yell at them to STOP! We couldn't stay out too late - Seth had a 9:00 soccer game the next morning.

"Then the Whos, young and old, [they'd head home] to a feast. And they'd feast! And they'd feast! And they'd FEAST! FEAST! FEAST! FEAST!"

Hope your Halloween was great!